What do you want to do before you die?

I discovered a new MTV show called “The Buried Life.” Four friends made a list of 100 things they want to do before they die, and on a cross-America roadtrip they attempt to scratch things off their list (thinks like “Make a speech at a stranger’s wedding” and “Go to a party at the Playboy Mansion”). The cool thing is, while they’re working toward crossing something off their own list, they also ask someone what they want to do before they die help them achieve it (“Get over my fear of heights” or “Reunite with my childhood friends”). It’s funny and inspiring. And of course, it got me to thinking: what do I want to do before I die?

I made a “bucket list” when I was a kid and kept it… it said things like “Get published” (check!), “Marry my soul mate” (corny but check!), “Meet Kirk Cameron from ‘Growing Pains'” (err, nope, not yet!) And I think if I added to it today, I would add:

1- Be a mommy

2- See Europe, especially Paris and The Eiffel Tower

3- Find the perfect chocolate chip cookie recipe (tried DOZENS!! Suggestions would be appreciated!)

4- Swim with dolphins

5- See NYC with a local

6- Make a quilt

7- Go apple picking

8- Teach a class

9- Drive a convertible along the beach

10- Be a friend

Some of these may seem simple, and they are- they’re just things I’ve never gotten a chance to do and would like to some day. I don’t really have any big lofty dreams… sure, it would be great to write the great American novel or become a world-renowned columnist, but for the most part, I’m pretty content with reveling in the every-day things. I love that the birds and squirrels come to my balcony for their breakfast, that I can wake up every day and do a job I love (even if I’m not in love with my salary), and that if I’m having a bad day because I’m in agony with a migraine that I have someone who is compassionate and loving and will bring me a banana, a glass of Gatorade and my “special” pills. I’ve had great jobs (mostly) and been lucky enough to have taken great friends from each place. Despite the fact that my family is small, we’re devoted to each other, and now that I’m married, I have this HUMONGOUS wonderful extended family I can rely on.

And I think my greatest “bucket list” accomplishment is: Find true friends.Β  It’s only as an adult I’ve discovered what true friends are, but I have a group of the most selfless, fun-loving, caring, wise people any person could ever hope for.

I often say how I hate being a grown-up, because, really, balancing checkbooks and investing in RRSPs and having to make those big, life-changing decisions isn’t all that fun. When I used to play “house,” I wasn’t organizing bills and making doctor’s appointments- I was playing (no wonder I thought being a grown-up was so fun!) But being an adult is downright scary. However, when you know you have a foundation of family, friends, coworkers, spouses, extended family, even a landlord who gets you a wedding gift- well, it makes everything a little easier.

What do I want to do before I die? I really just want to be the type of friend that others have been to me.

And I want to try pizza in Italy.

So, what do you want to do before you die?



  1. marlene eisner Said:

    you’ve already achieved # 10 of your bucket list; be a friend. what what i can see, you’re already a great friend to many, including your husband

  2. but it’s something you’re never “done” with, so i hope i can always be a friend! πŸ™‚
    thanks for reading marlene!!!

  3. Mary Teems Said:

    This was really really good Jenn! Even though you dont have children of your own YET- believe you me you have been a “MOMMY” to my children and sooooo many other children. You will have no trouble fullfilling that #
    As far as your others, well I can help you with #4, 8, 9 & 10. HAHA!!!
    Great story idea, love it!!!

  4. Mary Teems Said:

    Oh and Rich can help you with #5-lol

  5. marilyn Said:

    do the dolphins have to be real …or can they be the blow-up kind???

  6. Joy Said:

    I might be able to hook you up with an English teacher at my high school if you ever wanted to be a guest speaker and teach a class (#8)…

  7. wow joy- that is awesome! πŸ™‚ i would love to try that one day. i just need to figure out how to get over my fear of speaking in front of people (even kids lol). i took drama all four years of high school and still can’t seem to get over that fear. but you give me a reason to try!

    thanks for reading my blog btw- it’s so flattering to know people take the time to check out what i wrote!! πŸ™‚

  8. yes mary- he could! i have some friends from high school who live there now too…
    and yes, marilyn- real dolphins lol i swam with blow-up ones! πŸ™‚

  9. mom Said:

    You can cross the last one off your list – you are and always have been a friend – to me – and the best friend anyone could ever ask for – love you.

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